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Writing the Mundane

I haven’t written in a while for a few reasons. One, because my work keeps me SUPER busy. That’s not an excuse.

I’ve stayed away because my life is a tad too mundane to write about.

You know…get up, go to work, get off work, go home, eat dinner, watch a little television w/the hubby and go to bed. Rinse and repeat.

And then there’s stuff that isn’t mundane but this isn’t the space to write about it. There are some things that happen offline that need to stay offline. This is a space for me to write, share with you all great things, things that will help you grow.

But I needed to talk about the mundane stuff tonight too. Because well, believe it or not, there’s beauty in the mundane. Greatness evolves from the mundane.

We all spend a lot of time, I’m sure, thinking of ways to make life more interesting. Or maybe that’s just me. But I fail to appreciate the here and now, see the beauty in the mundane.

Sometimes we should stop and smell the roses. Stare in awe at the sunset. Feel the cool breeze against our skin. Appreciate being bored. YES, appreciate being bored. (A little secret-I get some of my best ideas while I’m bored)

My best friends, my family, and my husband, are people I can have fun with even in the most mundane times. Everything in life isn’t going to be a party. No, it’s not fun paying bills. And I don’t like doing dishes. I don’t like cleaning but it has to be done. It’s just another reminder that I’m here, living, breathing. I do the mundane so I can get to the more interesting things later on. I do what I have to do now, so I can do what I want to do later.

The mundane allows me to appreciate the moments of greatness and interesting things that much more, because they don’t come as often. The mundane keeps me humble and hungry. It allows me to strive for more and never become too comfortable. It also allows me to slow down, pace myself, when things get too crazy. It reminds me that yes, while I may be all that at my job, I still have to come home and cook dinner for my husband (which can actually be fun sometimes)!

The mundane isn’t fun. But I’m thankful for the mundane, for the perspective, experience, and lessons that it offers me. And I needed to write about the mundane today. Why?

Because I needed to write.

Posted in Life, Married Life, Relationships

Loving You…

‘Loving you, is easy cause you’re beautiful’-Minnie Ripperton

Man…as beautiful as that song is, loving someone is NOT easy. But that being said, it’s totally worth it.

I had a conversation with a loved one yesterday and they were telling me a story about a situation that bothered them.

In the conversation, I was telling them how they could have done something slightly different but was otherwise on their side. In that moment I realized they didn’t really need that at that moment. They needed to know I was on their side, that I loved them beyond whatever.

Sometimes, people need you to love them beyond their faults, beyond their flaws. You have no idea the power of love and the effect it has on someone. You can tell when someone is loved, it shows up all over them. It transforms lives in ways that nothing else can.

Love is powerful beyond words.

I can say that in my marriage, I’m really just beginning to grasp this lesson.

Sometimes, I want to tell my husband how wrong he is. And sometimes I do. And immediately regret it. Because certain moments, he doesn’t need that. Timing is absolutely¬†everything and showing love in the moment that your spouse needs it is crucial. You can speak about a lesson they need to learn another time. I’m learning to love my husband in spite of. Unconditionally. He needs to know that when he messes up and makes mistakes, I love him regardless. Because I want the same in return.

Marriage is indeed beautiful, because you share an intimacy with someone that you will not share with anyone else. You see them up close and personal 24-7, flaws and all. You learn what makes them tick. You learn what hurts them, what makes them happy. You learn what they need as well as what they desire. And then you get to give them what they need.

And what we all need, is love. And to be able to give that? Is indeed a privilege. Loving someone isn’t easy, but it’s the most rewarding thing I’ve ever done. It’s teaching me and showing me so much about myself. And through that, I am growing in ways I never could have imagined.

Loving You…is worth it.