Posted in Empowerment, Spirituality

Nothing is Wasted

There’s nothing like making mistakes…like investing all of your time, money, talents and attention…just to see something fail. Something you worked your BEHIND off for. Something you’ve wanted for the LONGEST. And, it wasn’t at all what you thought it would be. In fact, you could take it all back. You wish it had never happened.

Folks say you shouldn’t regret anything that happens in life, but you definitely regret this. It’s got you wondering ‘Okay, now what?’ Or maybe it’s got you feeling like you missed an opportunity, like you missed your blessing. You’re not where you think you’re supposed to be, and you’re convinced that you basically have to settle for second best, or third best, or basically left overs and scraps, because you’ve screwed up.

You weren’t supposed to lose that GREAT job. You know, the one that paid more money than you had ever seen in your life? The one that allowed you to get the nicest car you’ve ever driven? Your marriage wasn’t supposed to end this way. You and your child’s father were supposed to live happily ever after. But he left, and you’re convinced that it’s your fault for being with him in the first place. So you won’t get that happily ever after. And you’ve decided to accept that. Or maybe you haven’t, and you’re struggling with your mistakes.

I remember some mistakes I made back in 2004. I carried the guilt

But when are you going to forgive yourself for being wrong? For making what you thought, was the best decision at the time? Or maybe you knew it was wrong all along and figured, you could always undo it later…only you discovered too late in the game, that you couldn’t fix it. What’s done is done.

When are you going to let yourself off the hook? When are you going to recognize that, God has already forgiven you, and already has something GREAT lined up for you, in spite of? See, many of us have been sold a bill of goods. Many of us believe that, if we do everything JUST RIGHT, that we’ll be blessed.

But what if I told you that blessings aren’t for those of us who do everything JUST RIGHT? What if your destiny, your purpose INCLUDED your mistakes? I believe the bible when it says that God numbered all of our hairs on our head…so He definitely KNOWS us.

Any of us who are parents, or have a significant other, or even have a good friend that they KNOW inside and out? We often know the decisions and choices they will make before they even make them! And, God is the same way with us! He KNEW we would make mistakes! And what’s crazy is, He decided to include those mistakes and turn them around and use them for HIS purpose, HIS glory!

I’m writing all of this to say, nothing is ever wasted. Even if we feel like we’ve wasted time, money, resources, opportunities…God can open doors that no man can shut. He can’t replace the time lost, but He can set things up to where things happen for us twice as fast, where blessings come sooner than expected. He can help us to maximize time we have left, and give us double the things we lost before, no matter how bad we thought we blew it.

There is POWER in your mistakes, your blown chances. Love your story and own it, all of it…good, bad and ugly. Especially the bad and ugly. Because, it’s likely that the very thing you hate will end up being the very thing that God uses as a vehicle.  to bless you. Nothing is ever wasted. Ever.


A thirty something city kid from the midwest (born, raised and educated in Ohio!) Middle school english educator in a mid-size city in GA hellbent on giving my kiddos the tools they need to advocate for themselves and others! I'm also passionate about helping young adults find their purpose and live it out! I'm constantly growing and evolving. I'm a mom to a little brilliant active black boy and passionate about my faith and spirituality! I'm ready to change the world, one life at a time!